You Please Just Listen?
My baby has died. Please don't tell me
you know how I feel. You don't. You can't. I hope you never
do. Don't tell me that she's with God and I should be happy. How
can I be happy when every time I go to her nursery all I see is an empty crib
and toys that will never be played with? How can I be happy when my arms
ache to hold her?
Please don't tell me God needed another angel.
It's hard for me to understand why God would take away this little one who was
so loved. Maybe I will understand later. But for right now...let
God find another angel. Please, please, please don't tell me I'll have
other children. Maybe I will...but my daughter was not a puppy that ran
away...she can't be replaced.
Maybe you could just listen when I remember out
loud all the things we did together...the walks, the early morning feedings,
the first time she rolled over. Maybe you could just sit with me while I
cry over all the things we'll never do together.
Please don't tell me it could be worse.
I really don't want to hear about your grandfather's
death. It's not the same. Don't think my pain will be eased by
comparison. I'd be a lot happier if she hadn't died at all.
I know it must be hard for you, but would you
mind looking at her picture just one more time, we don't have many of her and
I'm just a little bit afraid that I may forget what she looked like. She
wasn't here that long you know.
Could you please just listen?
Don't tell me I'll get over it. There is
no "over it", only through it. Maybe you could just be with me
while I take my first steps through it. Please don't tell me I should be
glad she was just a baby, or that at least I didn't get to know her. I
knew her before I saw her. She was a part of me. And now she's
gone. I haven't just lost a year old baby. I lost a part of
I know you mean well, but please don't expect
me to tell you how to help me. I'd tell you if I knew, but right now I
can hardly put one foot in front of the other.
Please don't try to remove my pain or distract
me from it. I have to feel this way for now.